You Don’t Have to Learn The Hard Way!!

by Shannon Jarvies
Becoming a parent has been the greatest learning experience 

of my life. For some reason, I thought that my marriage license 

was the equivalent of a masters degree in the school of life.  

Since then I have had four kids and reality has smacked me in 

the face on more than one occasion. I've learned several lessons 

that they fail to mention in the "How To "books. 
I'm going to let you in on a few things "the experts" fail to mention.
Lesson #1
Newborns have this sixth sense when it comes to parental sleep 

deprivation. They abide by some unwritten law that states that 

they will sleep better if one or more of their parents are awake. 

Newborns are completely and totally content when their parents are 

sleep deprived humans walking around in a zombie-like state. Why do 

you think they sleep best in their car seats?
Lesson #2
Food can surpass the laws of physics once in a child's hands. A 

ten ounce cup of Kool-aid, when spilled by a child can  turn into 

a gallon on the floor and for some unknown reason has the ability 

to climb walls and run ten feet to get underneath the refrigerator. 

A ten ounce bag of potato chips will turn to  crumbs at the touch of

a child's fingertips and are magnetically drawn to the living room carpet. 

This makes cleaning the house a mundane task and should be left until 

after the kids have moved out permanently.
Lesson #3
You don't have to raise your voice to get your child's attention. 

Heck, you don't even have to make a sound. There are certain things 

that will bring your children out of the woodwork and if timed right, 

will get them all in the same room at the same  time. Now I know it will 

upset you that they could have possibly left this one out. Putting this 

information in a "What to expect.." book would have sent it to the best 

sellers list. But since they left it out, I feel it is my duty as a real 

parent to let you in on the following hints:
1) Pick up the phone and dial your best friends number 

2) Open a pop or a candy bar. 

3) Pull out all of your scrapbooks or sewing machine

4) Start whispering to your spouse.

5) Turn on your computer
Lesson #4
You will spend all of your time doing one of the two following things: 

losing something or looking for something that is lost. Expect to be 

looking for something, namely shoes or coats, when you are in the biggest 

hurry and losing something when  you are on vacation and it's most 

difficult to find or retrieve the lost item.
Lesson #5
The more money you spend on clothes the less your child will wear them. 

They will want to wear their summer clothes in the  winter and vice versa 

so be sure to keep seasonal clothes hidden high in the closets. Otherwise 

your pre-schooler will insist on wearing her swimming suit to her older 

brother's Christmas play. They will dress themselves in purple socks with 

brown pants and a red polka-dot shirt. My advice to you is to invest as 

little as you possibly can into clothes when your children are young. 

You'll make it up when they are  teens and want the coolest, most 

expensive brand name clothes. For those of you with more than one child, 

this article may not be of much help.  
You've probably already learned most of these lessons the hard way. But 

for  you first-timers or parents-to-be these lessons will be some of the 

best information you'll get your hands on. Just don't tell "you know who"!
Shannon Jarvies is a WAHM with four awesome children and wife to a wonderful guy.  
She's also webmom to a site that brings moms together to learn, laugh enjoy. 
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 PLUS she'll share her secret as to how she gets her kids to do their chores faithfully!